You do not owe anyone else anything. The only person you are obligated to is yourself. Deep breath. You can only control you. Take joy in that. You are not in charge of the actions of anyone, but you. That’s a beautiful relief and gift.
Friend, you are so loved. It’s easy to let the irrationalities and lies and insecurities that have built up with fear in our minds take control, to tell us what and who we are, but friend, that’s not who you are. You are so much more than all of those things. You are beautiful and powerful and capable and valid and strong. You are so loved.
Deep breath. Let’s do another one. Hear me, friend. There are so many things that are not your fault. There are so many things you know were out of your control, nonetheless you’re still blaming yourself. You’re still taking responsibility. Friend, let go. Deep breath, let go. Let go of the blame and anger and shame. You are more than things that have happened to you. You are so much more.
Friend, setbacks will happen. Things will happen that are out of your control. They may affect you. That’s hard. They may take you back a few steps. That’s harder. Nonetheless, you are valid. You are still in control of yourself. You are still strong. I desperately wish you did not have to keep using your full strength, that it could lay to rest for a while. Still, you are strong. Keep fighting.
Friend, you cannot control what anyone else thinks of you, says about you, believes about you. You can control what you think of you, say about you, believe about you. Choose to love yourself. Look at how far you’ve come, what you’ve accomplished, what’s you’ve powered through. People may think what they want, but they’ll never know where you started. You’re doing beautifully.
Deep breath. With each inhale bring in peace. With each exhale let go of worry. Inhale calm. Exhale doubt. Inhale joy. Exhale pain. Let each breath release self-destruction into the floor. Be fortified by a new day. You are in control of today.
You are in control. Deep breath. Slow, even breath. You are in control. You control your actions. You control your thoughts. You control your feelings. You are in control. No one can take that from you. You are in control.